speaking of the romance that is going around. I finaly got my word to not only talk to girls. (rather then just oggle them form across the room) at the last dinner and dance for the young people in the order. He even danced with a young healer. then she kissed him on the check. and well he did not quit panic, and use magic the throw the poor girl Across the room.. he did not even psychically attack her other then braking free of her arms. He did turn white as a ghost, and run form the room... as if he was afrade she was going to drag him off to a cave some where or have her way with him. right there on the floor infornt of every one. Progress but still need to work on his trust issues. so far the only woman or girl he really seems to trust is hes younger sister. He is more trusting of mom.... I might actualy be able to leave him for short periends of time when I need to travel for field work.... though I have yet to try it with more then a few hours

Its not that he does not like girls. its that he had a vary bad experience after his father died his mother was using him as a power source to try and turn back the wheel and save her husband. The way she raised the power was throw forms or abuse. Hope You All are getting a clear idea. and since that happened he is afread of being used by a girl or woman. Part of him wants to reach out to have relation ships. but yes it was unnerving for him.

I want hem to be happy. but I am not sure how that is going to happen if every time some one does any thing remotely sexual to him. he Freaks. He has to be free of that which binds other men and that includes fear. if he can not free him self of the fear that holds him he will not be able to grow into his true power. it will also and more impotently keep hem form a full and happy life

you two do have a point. The idea of having Social functions for young people like that dance. Is to teach or young people how to handle them, and also give then a chance to get to know other young people. Though we are not trying to pair them off yet. We understand that Romantic relationships and learning how to handle them are part of growing up. We go to a lot of effort to try and make them feel safe. And just seeing him Relax enough to dance and even smile when she laughed at some witty thing he said gave me hope. On that note him my moms foster and his sister went to see a movie. and well he was a little uncomfortable being so close to strangers things went well and he had a good time, they all did.

I wonder What he would have been like had he not been exposed to his mothers abuse. It is a vary tragic thing and all we can do now is damage control. I wonder if it would be a good Idea for him to avoid the dances for the time being maybe just attend the banquets and the less formal partys. Come to think about it his birthday is coming up, maybe I should ask him about the guest lists...

Cynthia He is going t be 15, I should have started fostering and training him at 13 but then there where other things going on. and we thought it wise to live him with his mother for a bet of time, after his father was killed. if we had done things as we usealy do them he would not have been abused by his mother... and would porbly be less ackwared with women and girls.

you act ling there's something wrong with people your own age group? I know there's things about you that I dont know but I suspect that you and my ward have much in common, I rather wish there was not, I wish that was something that we had left behind us.

It sounds like you ave a lot more in common then you know. I belong to an order of heardatry druids. The reasion we foster or children with some one else is 2 fold. One it strengthens the ties between families. 2 it makes sure that there gifts are trained. The reasion we do so at about 13 or so is recourse that is when here gifts start to manifest in a stable and trainable way. You have learned to field strip and use firearms. our children have to learn how to shut out the "voice" of the thoughts of others. My mother is a healer she can feel the pain of others as if it was her own. she had to learn to shut thought out. My word when I tried to send him to school blow up his desk because the teacher put her hand on his shoulder to try and help hem feel more comfortable.

and then there is the fact that the things that go bump in the night seem to think that young mages and psi. smell tasty. we do things like banquets partys. and dances. to give them some since that they have normal lives. also so that they know how to act in the world around them. But also we are celts and we try and hold to our cautler as well. I have seen what happens to children whom maifest unsural powers in the world if there parents do not understand it is not often pretty. and often tragic. we try and potect thim that is why when we find a child with power in state care we try and adopt them.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MEL!